Your phone.
Your kindle.
Your iPad.
Your relationships.
All need a little plug-in time to synch every so often.
My last post was about being the world's worst mom when it came to E and sleep. Here's what I have learned: I had not re-synched myself with him in quite awhile. I was taking for granted just what a wonderfully easy babe he is. I am constantly synching myself with S just to keep up. She's three years old now and a sponge that is learning at a mile a minute. She is the most loving, caring, emotional little girl; and I personally think she's the coolest girl alive. But here in lies the problem. I have forgotten that each child needs this attention. I was just bringing E along for the ride, and because he is the happiest kid ever, I didn't think twice about any of it.
Over the past week, I have slowed down and truly watched the amazing 14 month old toddler that he has become. Time has flown. He has grown. He has a happy dance he does when S wakes up in the morning and he runs to hug her. He now pushes monster cars around the house and crashes block towers down. He climbs coffee tables and attempts to free fall from them. Yes, I have seen these things from him before, but this time I just watched. I observed my son and listened to him. I listened to my 14 month old. He has so much to "say" that it took my breath away.
He can tell me when he has pee'd by pulling at the diaper or bringing me a new one; so we have started sitting on the potty throughout the day.
He wants to carry a doll like his sister; so we let him push a stroller around all day.
He is capable of eating more food (and not nursing every hour on the hour), as long as his sister is eating too... and he has a utensil, is not in a high chair, and is not made to eat it.
HE CAN SLEEP. He gets tired throughout the day. He wants to sleep. He sleeps better if he gets more sleep. (I knew all of these things existed, but I just didn't think E was capable of them.) Now don't get me wrong, E is not a sleeping angel by any means; however, by watching and listening to him, and giving him the same consideration I have always given S, I have learned when he might be tired enough to sleep. I leave S to play while E and I lay in the sleep room together, nurse and listen to the sound machine. 7 out of 10 times, he has slept. The other 3, well, I can't win em all! He may sleep for 30 minutes or an hour, even an hour and a half once! but all that matters is that he is sleeping. I have also started a better night routine for both kids. I have been able to put them down 4 times on my own in the last week! I swear, the high is like finishing a race I have been training months for. Now I can't stop our lives and keep the kids at home all day; I teach bootcamp three days a week, S has ballet and soccer, we visit the library and museum once a week, etc. So we have adapted. If E falls asleep in the car, I walk S into ballet and wait in the car (with kindle in hand) while E sleeps. Or, S and I play outside while E sleeps in the car (with windows down and breeze blowing). If he falls asleep in the stroller on a run, S and I share popsicles outside while he naps. I no longer attempt to transfer him.
I cannot express the pride I have in myself at this moment of motherhood. As much as I wanted more children, I now feel as though I will be able to handle another child (or two if I have my way!). I am learning each day how to balance between the kids. I just have to remember that everything needs "re-synched" every so often to keep it updated.
On that note, I may need to "re-synch" with myself here soon. While, I am at a wonderful place emotionally, physically, and spiritually as a wife and mother, I need to reevaluate where I am at as an individual so that I never lose who I am. I have a bunco night coming up, a ballet class next week, and my weekly runs have gone from 3-4 days a week to 6 days. :) I'm on the right track, but it never hurts to hit the "synch" button again.
Is it time for you to re-synch a relationship?
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